Nigerian men are always in a rush when it comes to sex- sex expert says

Sex Therapist, pastor Funmi Akingbade says the
average Nigerian man is not the most patient
lover. In an interview with City People magazine,
pastor Akingbade said Nigerian men see foreplay
and other activities before intercourse as a waste
of time. She says to have a bliss marital life,
great sex must be incorporated and that the
woman should not be seen as an object just to
'released' into.
Excerpts from the interview below..
How would you describe the Nigerian man
when it comes to sex?
The Nigerian man is always in a rush when
it comes to sex. They rush into it and
quickly rush out once they "come". Every
driver that wants an accident-free trip must
drive safely, know his road signs, have good
driving skills and be a good observer. This
is also true with sex because marital sex is
a journey and not to be done in a rush.
Those who want to succeed in marriage
give their sex life a lot of attention and sex
is what makes it different and wonderful. So,
for no reason must a spouse "beg" or
"plead" for sex from her partner. Rather,
good sex should be given mutually at all
times" Continue...
Why then do you think that the Nigerian man
rush into and out of sex?
Even though a penis is controlled by the nervous
system, it still has a mind of its own. Every
woman loves foreplay but the African man has
not much time for those sweet touching of a
woman's body or genital before sex, they see it
as a waste of time. If men tend to rush through
foreplay, if at all they want to do it, they do it
mildly and hurriedly. This is because they are
ever ready the moment they have an erection.
Delaying intercourse when they have an erection
and a willing woman nearby? That sounds idiotic
to them because they see it as a waste of their
precious time. A true Nigerian woman is not
frigid. It is the way and manner a Nigerian man,
lets say a black man, gives sex to her that makes
a black woman frigid. A Nigerian man goes out
from his own point of need and not from the
woman's point of need. They rush into the
woman's private part and rush out. They see the
woman as an object to release into. They don't
care whether she has an orgasm. All they are
after is about themselves. They fail to realize that
she has her sexual Libido which should be
touched or aroused before dipping their manhood
into her. But we let them know that they should
never rush the woman. A man should ask a
woman to give him different styles and positions
during sex. She should be free to ask for sex
whenever she feels the urge. Our men should
allow the women to have sex the way they enjoy
doing it too. It shouldn't be just the Adam and
Eve style where the man commands her to open
and raise her legs and all of a sudden he rushes
inside immediately. This means she has just
been legally raped. Ask a woman what she wants
in bed or during sex, she will tell you she wants
to be romanced, touched, kissed, she wants to be
friendly. She wants to be bounced with her
partner first and this will really make her come
easily and sweetly. She will never be frigid if the
man presses the right buttons in her because sex
to a woman is emotion and she can trade sex for
affections because he wants sex. The moment
she gets affection from her man, she will be able
to open up well for her man to come inside her.
So a woman you can easily go into her heart is a
woman you can easily get into her legs. Before
sex, a woman will want the man to start with talk
even if the talk is not relevant but she just needs
your attention. She will want to be touched all
over but not immediately at the main point of her
body so that so it does not appear like you are
only interested in getting in-between her legs.
Give her the attention, get bonded, get connected
first because she wants to feel you. So sex to a
man is a show of love he derives during sex or
after the sex while that of a woman is a show of
emotion she gets before sex. So if you don't
understand what a woman really needs in sex,
she will tighten her legs and lie down like a log
or dead body lying in state because she is not
feeling the man emotionally" she said